WITHSTAND · Five minutes of peer support
When the urge hits,you do not have to face it alone.
When an urge gets strong, start looking for a real peer for five structured minutes. Plus members can open Comet inside that same search, while the free support core stays human and honest. Between difficult moments, find community and prepare your own tools.
- Real peers, never simulated
- No chat, voice, or video in sessions
- No DMs
- Core support stays free · Adults 18+
Illustrative screen. Shown activity is not live availability.
Support, in your own time
For the moment. And the days between.
The moment
There is a windowbetween the urge and the action.
An urge can make the next action feel automatic. WITHSTAND creates a pause without asking you to explain your whole story first. Start looking for a peer, then choose what could help next. Plus members can open Comet inside the search; if a peer accepts, the app opens a five-minute space focused on one next step.
- 01Notice the urge.
- 02Start the peer search.
- 03A peer accepts.
- 04Choose a safer next step.
Why five minutes
Five minutes.A clear boundary for a hard moment.
Five minutes gives the experience a clear beginning and end. It is short enough to ask for in a difficult moment, but long enough for another person's presence to interrupt the feeling that you have to handle the next action alone.
Small enough to ask now
You are not asking a stranger to solve your life. You are asking one adult for a defined five-minute commitment, with no story, profile, or ongoing relationship required.
Structured enough to stay focused
A shared timer, preset signals, and one chosen safe action keep the session on the immediate moment. There is no open chat to perform in, moderate, or carry afterwards.
Your next action stays yours
A peer can be present, but they do not direct your life. You choose the action, you can end the session, and you decide what happens when the five minutes are over.
How it works
Four small steps.Five real minutes.
- 1.0
Start the peer search
Tap Stay with me when the moment is hard to hold alone. Plus members can open Comet after the search begins; you do not have to publish what is happening.
- 2.0
Stay with the wait
WITHSTAND looks for an adult who is standing by. Comet can offer one focused AI-guided step inside that search for Plus members, while a Live Activity keeps the wait visible and breathing haptics mark the passing minutes.
- 3.0
Share five minutes
A session opens only after someone accepts. Use fixed signals, a shared timer, and the safe action you chose—without opening a chat.
- 4.0
Keep the next step
When the moment closes, write a private record, return to your Plan, or look back at your walk. Your Journal, Plan, and walk stay open on Free.
Human presence
Support can movein both directions.
WITHSTAND does not divide people into helpers and people who need help. You can ask on one day and offer five minutes on another—without a public audience, private messages, public scores, or pressure to stay available.
Ask for company.
Send a five-minute request when the moment is hard to hold alone. You share only what the session needs—not your real name, history, contact details, or a public post.
Offer five minutes.
When you have capacity, be present for another member through fixed signals. You can decline, leave the Watch, or rest without a penalty.
Honest availability
No pretend presence.A clear next step.
A search is only a search until another adult accepts. WITHSTAND keeps every state plain, because a difficult moment is the wrong time for invented people, vague waiting, or false reassurance.
- 01
While the app searches
You see that the app is looking. There are no fake names, simulated activity, fabricated counts, or AI presented as a human peer.
- 02
Comet joins the search
After the search begins, Plus members can open Comet in that same request. It is clearly identified as AI and does not replace the search for a real peer.
- 03
After a peer accepts
Only then does WITHSTAND say someone is here and open the shared five-minute session.
- 04
If nobody accepts
The app says no one is available yet, then offers a 60-second breath, your Plan, closing access, another attempt, and immediate help.
02 / Community · Free
A place to return to, between difficult moments.
Share a small step, read someone else's experience, or leave a comment. Choose a pseudonymous profile and follow members whose posts you want to see again. Joining is optional; asking for peer support does not require a community profile.
Posts, comments, and your community profile are shared with the community. Your Plan and Journal stay private. Reporting, blocking, and moderation are available. There are no direct messages.
Read the community guidelines ↗03 / Prepare · Plus
Turn a useful thought into a tool you can use.
The recovery program guides you through a short lesson, a reflection, and a response in your own words. Start by noticing the thought that makes an urge easier to act on—and prepare a different response for next time.
Notice the thought
Work through a focused theme at your own pace.
Make it yours
Save a short personal response in My Toolkit.
Return when it matters
Recall a tool during Relay and record whether it helped.
Plus opens program lessons and Comet's five-minute Relay. Tools you have already created remain available to use and edit after Plus ends. These are reflection tools, not medical treatment.
What's new in 1.1.2
The moment matters.So do the hours around it.
This update keeps Comet inside the search for a real peer, makes your own words visible as soon as you send them, varies recovery suggestions using recent choices, and expands the Plan. The screenshots below illustrate the Plan, walk, and personal backdrop.
Beyond the streak
Each thing you want to leave behind keeps its own walk.
WITHSTAND separates your walks by Focus, including each start date. A setback in one walk does not break another. Your Journal, Plan, and walk stay private and free; Plus adds deeper patterns and preparation without changing who may ask for support.
Comet starts inside the peer search
Begin looking for a real peer first. Plus members can then open Comet in that same search; asking for a person stays the first priority.
Your words stay visible
Comet accepts a short free-form message and keeps your sent line in the conversation while it prepares the next response. Peer sessions remain fixed-signal, not open chat.
A Plan with room for ten steps
Keep up to ten actions and watch-for situations in your Plan, so a new safe step does not have to displace an earlier one.
Suggestions that remember what you tried
Comet uses recent intervention history to vary the next recovery suggestion. One conversation does not become a diagnosis or a promise.
A separate walk for every Focus
Keep each start date, days held, urges survived, and marks lit with the thing they belong to. Your Journal, Plan, and walk remain open to everyone.
The wait can leave the app
A Home Screen widget, a Live Activity while you wait, and a reminder before the gathering hour help WITHSTAND stay close without asking you to stare at it.
Patterns you can actually use
See urge strength before and after, the hours when records cluster, and one Sunday page that looks back over the week.
Prepare before the hour arrives
Set a prepared hour and receive a quiet line shortly beforehand that points back to the Plan you already chose.
Bring trusted people closer
Invite up to five people to a Personal Circle. A one-time invitation can temporarily apply Plus to both people, and invited members can answer without buying Plus.
Make the private space yours
Use your own photo as the backdrop. It changes only what you see; the peer-facing session stays small and anonymous.
Built for privacy
Small by design.Private by default.
The other person does not need your identity or your whole story to be present. WITHSTAND narrows what can exist in a session, instead of asking you to manage exposure after the fact. Less information crosses the boundary, so there is less to explain, perform, or regret sharing later.
Only the session surface
A peer sees your abstract light, fixed signals, chosen shared action, and connection state—not your anonymous name, email, location, exact age, Focus, Plan, or history.
No open channel
Anonymous sessions have no free-text chat, voice, video, image, or link exchange. A Personal Circle shares one set-once display name inside an invited, mutual relationship; it creates no public profile or direct-message channel. Community, the center tab, is where members who opt in share short posts and comments under a pseudonym—moderated, with no direct messages.
Controls stay close
End, block, report, and immediate help remain reachable during the experience. Account deletion is available inside the app without contacting support first.
Memberships
Free support first.More depth when you choose Plus.
Paying never decides whether you may ask an anonymous peer for help or be present for someone else. Plus adds Personal Circle, private patterns, the prepared hour, a weekly look-back, and a photo backdrop. Supporter helps sustain WITHSTAND and adds private visual choices.
These memberships are included in the iOS app and purchased only through the App Store. Subscriptions are not sold on this website.
United States storefront prices are shown below. The App Store displays the final localized price, renewal period, and trial eligibility before purchase.
Get support
Free
$0No subscription
For getting through the next moment and taking part in a quieter peer community.
- Ask an anonymous adult peer for five minutes
- Offer five minutes when you have capacity
- Open and rewrite your own Plan, on or offline
- Keep a private journal and read it back
- See your walk: days held, urges survived, marks lit
- Join the optional community
- Reach safety controls and immediate-help resources
Asking for support and being there for someone never sit behind a paywall.
Prepare and look back
Plus
$4.99 / monthor $49.99 / year
For inviting trusted people, noticing patterns across time, and preparing before a difficult hour arrives.
- Work through recovery lessons and five-minute Sort Out
- Use Comet Relay inside a peer search
- Keep up to ten Plan steps and watch-for situations
- Invite up to five people you trust to a Personal Circle
- Ask those people directly when a moment is hard
- Circle members can respond without buying Plus
- See urge strength before and after over several weeks
- See the hours when your records cluster
- Set a prepared hour and receive a quiet reminder
- Look back over the week on Sunday morning
- Use your own photo as the backdrop
Annual Plus is $9.89 less than twelve monthly payments. Eligible new subscribers may see a seven-day trial in the App Store.
Keep support free
Supporter
$3.99 / monthUnited States storefront
For people who want to help keep WITHSTAND running. Active Supporters also receive a private emblem and the option to use the Supporter app icon and extra night skies.
- A separate membership from Plus
- A Supporter-only emblem in your private Progress
- Choose the Supporter app icon and a night-sky color
- Helps sustain the service around free peer support
- Can be held separately from a Plus membership
Supporter is support for the service, not a discounted Plus plan. The emblem and icon are available while the membership is active.
Common questions
Questions deserveplain answers.
The limits are part of the product, not fine print added later. Here is what to expect before you reach out or offer your time.
What happens during the five minutes?
You and one peer exchange preset signals, follow the safe action you selected, and see the same session timer. You can end when you are ready.
Is this therapy or professional advice?
No. Peers are other adult members, not staff or professionals. WITHSTAND is structured peer presence—not medical care, therapy, counseling, addiction treatment, or an emergency response service.
Will someone always be available?
No. Another member has to choose to accept, and availability can be limited. If nobody accepts before the timeout, the app says so plainly and offers other next steps.
What can the other person see about me?
Only the small session surface: an abstract light, fixed signals, the shared safe action, and connection state. They cannot see your anonymous name, email, location, exact age, Focus, Plan, check-ins, or history.
Can I both ask for support and support someone else?
Yes. When you need company, ask a peer. When you have capacity, you can offer five minutes to someone else. You can always decline or rest.
Do I need to pay to ask a peer?
No. Asking an anonymous peer, offering presence, opening and rewriting your Plan, the private Journal, each of your walks, and safety access remain free—they are the reason this app exists. Plus adds Personal Circle, private patterns, preparation, a weekly look-back, and a photo backdrop. Supporter sustains the service and adds private visual choices. Neither changes who may ask for help.
Is Comet a person?
No. Comet is an AI conversation layer that becomes available inside a peer search for Plus members. It is not a human peer, does not promise that someone will accept, and does not replace immediate help.
What if someone is in immediate danger?
Contact local emergency services yourself. WITHSTAND does not monitor crisis status or dispatch help; its immediate-help resources remain available without a peer session.
The night sky
Technology should helphumans find humans.
A Plan can remind you what you chose earlier. A private record can help you notice what brings you back. But in the immediate moment, another person can choose to spend the next five minutes with you now. The anonymous session stays focused on that small human act. Sharing in the community is a separate choice.
Get through this moment.You do not have to do it alone.
Five structured minutes with a real adult peer. No need to publish your story, build a following, or open a private chat. WITHSTAND is on iOS for adults 18 and older.
Get WITHSTAND on iOSA peer may not be available when you ask. WITHSTAND tells you plainly and keeps your Plan and immediate-help options within reach.